Monday, October 05, 2009

Guest: Carol Sue Gershman

Finding Love After 50

I personally have had more love affairs after 50 than ever before. In fact, love started pouring in after 50.

How can I explain this...

As a 14 year old teenager I fell in love with a guy. I knew the moment I saw him that I wanted to marry him, and while I did date, I was more of a lady in waiting for him to come around. Yes, I did win him over and we had many, many happy years together and are dear friends to this day.

However, we ended up separating after all, and I began to date.

I had the opportunity of going back to when I was 19 in spirit, the age that I married and re-living those same years. It was at the time that the younger man, older woman came into focus so I had a slew of potential dates.

I travelled all over the world and met men; in fact I probably enjoyed the company of men in most countries of the world. Please do not get me wrong as I was not promiscuous. I was making up for my teenage years and having experiences.

I had shorter term relationships as I did not want anything close to marriage, but as I grew and got older, my relationships got longer. I can honestly say that fifty is fabulous, sixty in sensational and seventy sizzles all with passion and all by dating. My theory is to keep yourself in good shape, keep yourself healthy and stylish and stay up with the times. If you do that, it makes no difference what so ever how old you are.

I think on line dating is terrific. When I put up a great picture and smile and write something clever I am inundated with responses. I might do that for a month at a time, stopping and later picking it up again. I have met some great guys on the free sites like Craigslist, Google; there is no need to sign up for expensive sites that lock you in.

I imagine it is good to set your goals, rich man, poor man, handsome, charming, etc. but I am an independent woman so good companionship is what I look for. I also have no qualms about sharing expenses with a man. Unless if he is very wealthy, I am sure he is watching his money as well, and I do not take advantage. At this point of life men usually have a ex-wife or kids to think about, so sharing is fine with me.

There is nothing wrong with calling a man, in fact setting it up that way is a blessing. Nobody likes waiting by the phone.

The next time you are attracted to a man ask him for his card immediately!. How often have I made that mistake and sometimes the opportunity passes...

Love after 50 or 60 is more passionate than back then. And with the right partner it can be a lot more fun. We know the tricks.

About Carol Sue:

Constantly reinventing herself, Carol Sue Gershman attended the Miami Dade College memoir class and decided that she would turn her two and a half page “Adventure in Love Story” into a book. Never having written before, it was passion that drove her each day to write.

After spending 25 years in New York City, she was one of the first to arrive into the new phenomenon of Miami Beach (South Beach) She is presently writing her next book while working on laws to ban smoking in residential buildings.

Now at 73 she will take her completed book back on the road re-living the cities and states visited on the road trip. You might just see her driving her hot yellow mustang convertible packed with books, hats and what it takes for life on the road.

You can visit her website by clicking here


  1. Hi Carol!
    My Grandma Love lives by this same rule and she is happy and loving life in her mid 80's, with a much younger man!:) I can only hope to be so happy at her age!!

    Sounds like a great book! Wishing you many sales!


  2. What a awesome story and glad you shared with all of us. I wish you much success with your book and hope to be able to read it myself. I retired recently but don't act my age either. susan L.

  3. I am not quite 50 but you are right - sex is definitely better the older you get. For women anyway. ha ha


  4. Hello and thank you for your comments and love for passion/

    If you are thinking about a gift for you or a friend, I would love to send you an authographed copy
    Carol Sue

  5. Carol Sue - I absolutely LOVED your post! It was such a pleasure to host you on your virtual tour - I am only sorry more people didn't take the time to leave behind a comment, because lady you are WONDERFUL!!!! I would love to read your book sometime! And have you back for another guest spot if you're interested??? Please do let me know....

    Hugs and Blessings,

  6. Hi Denyse,
    I would love to return at any time. Just say the word.
    Thank you for your inspiration. I enjoyed writing for your post.
    carol sue

  7. Wow! I love this post and Carol is absolutely lovely and lively! What wonderful advice to women. I've lived by these rules myself and it's great to see that more and more women are dumping those old-fashioned rules behind and finding that they can be independent ladies, have a good time, and enjoy dating or find companionship in a man who's your equal. Hooray!


  8. Sounds like you get more confident as you get older!!
    Hope that's as true in my case!

    Thanks for taking the time to share your thoughts.

    Lisa x


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